Posts Tagged ‘attachment roots’

Infographic: Attachment Roots

Dr. Gordon Neufeld created a model of attachment that provides us with so much more insight and direction than Bowlby’s secure/insecure/avoidant attachment model. In the Neufeld model, we see how attachment can unfold in the first six years of life, with each root deepening the connection and allowing for more spacious connection–if attachment goes down…

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Looking for More Nuance than Secure/Insecure/Avoidant?

Dr. Gordon Neufeld’s model of the six attachment roots provides us with a rich understanding of how attachment is meant to unfold. If all is going well, this can unfold in the first six years of life with each year opening up the capacity to attach at a deeper level, but for many children (and…

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Attachment Roots Day 6: Being Known

Attachment Roots Day 6: Being Known. We’ve arrived at our final stop on our journey through the attachment roots. In the sixth year of life, the capacity to want to be fully known opens up. This is the age when it occurs to children that their parents don’t automatically know all their thoughts. If the…

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Attachment Roots Day 5: LOVE đź’•

Day 5 of Attachment Roots: In the fifth year of life the capacity to attach through LOVE opens up. So tender, so vulnerable, the capacity to attach in this way requires a deep sense of safety. Four and five year-olds, if they move into this mode of attachment, are filled with hearts: drawings of hearts,…

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Attachment Roots Day 4: Significance

Welcome to day 4 of our journey down the attachment roots! The attachment root that we will explore today is where things can “go off the rails” as one of my colleagues at the Neufeld Institute describes it. This means that we are now getting into much more vulnerable territory than we have been in…

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