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Playing with Alarm

Tummy aches and monsters in the closet. Headaches and risky behaviour. Frequent hand-washing and repetitive behaviors. These are all manifestations of alarm. Thinking about this list of manifestation probably doesn’t make any of us feel very playful, however play is often just what is needed to keep our children’s alarm system healthy and well-functioning.  …

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Understanding Resistance

  No! You can’t make me! You’re not the boss of me! I’m not a baby anymore, Mom (said with an eye roll)! All of these phrases (maybe you’ve heard some of them?) have one thing in common: at their root is a deep human instinct that is (unfortunately!) little known outside of psychoanalytic circles…

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I’ve Told You a Thousand Times!

One of the things that frustrates parents and teachers the most is when kids don’t follow a rule, even when it is repeated again and again.   A mom I talked to today told me that she was afraid her son might get asked to leave his daycare because he was biting kids every day…

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Take Frustration Out to Play

If one were trying to create a recipe for frustration, these past few months would be the winning combination. Frustration is one of our primary mammalian emotions and it arises when things are not going the way we want them to.  Not being able to move about the world as we are used to doing?…

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Never too late!

  To me, one of the most compelling things about a developmental approach is the deep faith it is built on: the faith that growth can always happen, that no one is “too far gone” to heal, transform, soften, grow and mature. When defenses soften, because something has finally made things feel safe enough for…

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