This piece, written by newspaper columnist Adair Lara in 1969, completely stands the test of time and captures the adolescent years so well. ____________________ The Cat Years I just realized that while children are dogs – loyal and affectionate – teenagers are cats....
In my parenting teens support group yesterday we had an important discussion about the difference between taking something away from your child or teen as a punishment and setting a limit for your child’s or teen’s safety. This is such an important distinction...
Dr. Gordon Neufeld created a model of attachment that provides us with so much more insight and direction than Bowlby’s secure/insecure/avoidant attachment model. In the Neufeld model, we see how attachment can unfold in the first six years of life, with each...
Parents often ask me for help in getting their kids to “self regulate.” These parents report that their eight year-old tells them he hates them, that their eleven year-old slammed the door after a rough day at school or that their five year-old has tantrums that last...
Dr. Gordon Neufeld’s model of the six attachment roots provides us with a rich understanding of how attachment is meant to unfold. If all is going well, this can unfold in the first six years of life with each year opening up the capacity to attach at a deeper level,...
