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A Good Start but…

I’ve seen several articles and videos lately about the ways we could do better in terms of “sex education.” And I agree and I’m glad we’re talking about this. But… While these articles highlight the need to incorporate issues of consent, empathy, relationship skills and social media warnings into the ways we teach our kids…

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Worried about “Socializing” your Shy Child? Worry no More!

Shyness, not wanting to go to school and “lack of” friends in school-age children are often sources of concern for both parents and teachers. However, when we look at these phenomena through a developmental lens we can begin to see that they should not be a source of alarm; in fact, they are usually a…

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Don’t Cut Those Apron Strings…

Adolescence: a time to “get back your life,” to “let go,”, to “push independence”…or, maybe not. These common cultural ideas around adolescence  don’t actually reflect what our teens really need from us.  When their children become teenagers, parents often feel that their job is somewhat “done;” that they can devote more time to their pursuits:…

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Got Alpha?

Meeting our children’s attachment needs is our number one job as parents. Our number two job is to make sure this attachment is in the correct hierarchical order: with parents in the Alpha* position and children in the Dependent* position. For many of us, there is a resistance to standing in a place of authority…

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Being Your Child’s Best Bet – Part 3

I hope you have enjoyed Parts 1 and 2 in the “Be Your Child’s Best Bet” blog post series. Today, we will conclude this series by exploring “But What do I do When X happens?” with the unspoken part being “Because you said I shouldn’t be giving time outs/punishments/consequences!” This is a very common question…

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