Disipline

Being Your Child’s Best Bet – Part 3

I hope you have enjoyed Parts 1 and 2 in the “Be Your Child’s Best Bet” blog post series. Today, we will conclude this series by exploring “But What do I do When X happens?” with the unspoken part being “Because you said I shouldn’t be giving time outs/punishments/consequences!” This is a very common question…

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Being Our Children’s ‘Best Bet’ – Part 2

Yesterday we explored what it means to be our children’s ‘best bet.’ Today we’ll look at some common parenting practices that take us away from being their best bet and, in fact, can lead to our children distrusting us and believing that they need to hide parts of themselves from us. Before we continue, I want…

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Be Your Child’s ‘Best Bet’ – Part 1

My teacher, Dr. Gordon Neufeld, speaks alot about the imperative for parents to be their children’s “best bet.” In a series of posts over the next few days, I’d like to explore this concept. What Does it Mean to be our Children’s “Best Bet?” Being our children’s best bet means that in times of trouble,…

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No Gold Stars Here

This article in The Washington Post describes not only the inefficacy of classroom ‘behavior management’ systems, but also the myriad negative effects that can result from these systems.. Not only are children experts at sniffing out manipulation and coercion (and they respond negatively – as we all do – when they feel forced or bribed),…

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What to do with Whining

“I can’t understand you when you whine,” is a commonly recommended response to children’s whining. Even though I have used it at times, when whining felt like it was going to drive me crazy (and I thought that was what I was “supposed” to say), it never really felt right to me. It felt, first…

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