Developmental Paradigm

Making Sense of Peer Orientation

“When children become preoccupied with their peers and would prefer to be with them rather than with us, it is a sign for us that we must win them back. I tell parents to look for two warning signs of peer orientation. The first is when a child does not seem to be able to…

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What if Your Child’s Frustration Could Connect You?

Whether our children are toddlers or teenagers most of us know that sinking feeling that occurs when our child begins to explode–whether it be the back-arching of the toddler, the sibling hitting of the seven-year old or the hissed “I hate you” of the teenager. These moments, and the long moments that follow, are often…

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You Can’t Teach Kindness

Social-emotional learning programs in schools are getting a lot of airtime (not to mention a lot of money) these days. As a parent consultant who works from a developmental perspective, many parents are surprised that I am not enthusiastic about these programs. Don’t I care about children being empathetic? Yes, but if it’s going to be…

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