Raising Future Adults in Tumultuous Times

Oh, these days. These enraging, difficult days where women are reminded how little (many of) those in power care about our humanity; where we are reminded that our bodies are so often seen as the playthings of men (“the laughter is indelible in the hippocampus”), and where the pain caused by being treated with such…

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Making Space for All of It

Sometimes when my teenager is feeling sad he wonders if it’s actually such a good thing to feel things so deeply. He muses to me that if he didn’t he wouldn’t have to feel sad. He has a good point; when our hearts are soft they feel a lot. But, in good time, I remind…

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Beyond ‘Baby Bonding’

When most of us hear the word “attachment”, especially if we live in progressive cities like Portland, it brings up images of attachment parenting groups, extended breastfeeding, co-sleeping and delayed or no vaccinations. This is the “attachment parenting” espoused by Dr. Sears and rigidly embraced by many parents looking for a lifeline when they find…

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Is Your Child Easy to Parent?

So often parents come to my office or my classes perplexed and distraught about the difficulties they are having in parenting their child. “But I couldn’t love them more!” they often tell me; and it is clear that this is true. Lack of love from parent to child is never, thankfully, the issue for the…

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Impulse Control in Young Children (and Young Teens)

A recent study on parenting discovered what researchers called an “expectation gap” wherein 56% of parents believe that children under the age of three have the ability to resist doing something forbidden and 36% of parents believe that children under the age of two have this ability. Fact: if everything is perfectly on track developmentally…

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